KEVIN L. COLE, JR.
I know what you’re feeling. You’re in pain, right? You feel as if the world is against you at this very moment. You have slowly become dependent on your symbiotic relationship with depression because it seems as if joy happens to be worlds away.
I know you feel alone. You probably feel like no one understands. You have been paralyzed by confusion, and it’s keeping you from moving in any direction. Though I don’t exactly know what you’re going through, I know you’re about ready to fold under the weight of pressure, depression, confusion, loneliness, and more. I know because there was once a time when I felt the same.
How did I overcome it? To be honest, it’s been more the question of when. Time heals all, right? Not necessarily. See, I believe that in those long moments of limbo you begin to notice the blessings that stem from every situation. You begin to realize that what you are going through is not only preparing you to become that King or Queen of the temple that houses One higher than you, but it also brings on the opportunity to gain knowledge, understanding, and wisdom that will benefit the next person in pain. Trust me, you will always cross paths with another individual in pain no matter if you notice it or not.
So, what are the steps to getting better? The truth…I have no clue. Every person has their own path to follow. I’ve spent many long days and nights confined to the prison of my mind with nothing but my thoughts and self-imposed loneliness to keep me company. It’s not that I didn’t have people that cared. I had just convinced myself that I didn’t know how to work a phone. Plus when I came into contact with loved ones, I would just use my well-prepared poker face to sell a beautiful lie.
I would pray as usual; however, this time I was in dire need of a sign. No answer. I would continue to ask God “why”, but wouldn’t receive a response until I crossed paths with an older gentleman that was full of life. He mentioned how those moments when everything goes wrong are the exact moments that help build character (then he did some weird thing where he gracefully floated away like Prince on the Chappelle show…I promise). With that in mind, I prayed the words of Psalm 143, and decided to take a step back in order to gain a view of the bigger picture.
The season that I was going through brought on so many different opportunities to grow. It wasn’t just breaking me down to utterly destroy me. No, it was breaking me down to build me back up. The symbolism is somewhat like the growth of muscles. I was weak and didn’t even realize it until the season brought stress, wear, and pain. Yet through all of that trouble, I began to grow stronger.
You can do the same!
There are times in your life when s#!t gets too real, and you have no clue on how to handle all of the situations that arise; however, those are the times that help you develop into a manifestation of the Most High, and provide an opportunity for growth that may not be offered to others. Just hold on! Keep your faith, hope, and, most importantly, keep your love. Love that creation that God loves because you will not be able to move in a positive direction if you lack love of self. Don’t give up! Like the old folks say, “Keep on keeping on!”
It’ll be hard to keep moving in your season of pain, but like any other season it will eventually come to an end (Ecclesiastes 3). Then there will come a time in your life when you are able to look back on all of what you went through and appreciate all of the growth that you have gained from your experience.
Remember, joy is on the other side of hurting. So keep pushing!